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		<title>The righteousness of God imputed</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Jul 2010 21:01:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[This doctrine that we hear as part of the “grace message” of Joseph Prince has roots that go back to the Reformation. The early Reformation creeds give evidence of this. Creeds are succinct summaries of the teachings and faith of groups of Christians. The ones quoted below are from the Calvinist reformers of the Protestant [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.blogpastor.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/index.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-2273" title="the reformers" src="http://www.blogpastor.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/index.jpg" alt="the reformers" width="101" height="101" /></a>This doctrine that we hear as part of the “grace message” of Joseph Prince has roots that go back to the Reformation. The early Reformation creeds give evidence of this. Creeds are succinct summaries of the teachings and faith of groups of Christians. The ones quoted below are from the Calvinist reformers of the Protestant movement. They express the crux of the message that generated  the great revivals of the Protestant Reformation. Study them and you will see that these reformers believed that justification&#8230;</p>
<p>&#8230;..is an undeserved gift of God’s grace;</p>
<p>&#8230;..is not just the forgiveness of sins but also the imputation of the perfect obedience and righteousness of Christ to the believer;</p>
<p>&#8230;..is received by faith alone apart from works of law, yet this faith is never alone but works through love;</p>
<p>&#8230;..cannot be separated from regeneration.</p>
<p><strong>The Heidelberg Catechism (1563)</strong> was written by Zacharias Ursinus, professor at the University of Heidelberg, and Caspar Olevianus the court preacher.</p>
<blockquote><p>“Question 60: How are you right with God?</p>
<p>Answer:  Only by true faith in Jesus Christ. Even though my conscience accuses me of having grievously sinned against all God’s commandments and of never having kept any of them, and even though I am still inclined toward all evil, nevertheless, without my deserving it at all, out of sheer grace, God grants and credits to me the perfect satisfaction, righteousness, and holiness of Christ, as if I had never sinned nor been a sinner, as if I had been as perfectly obedient as Christ was obedient for me. All I need to do is to accept this gift of God with a believing heart.”</p></blockquote>
<p><strong>The Belgic Confession(1561)</strong> was written by Guido de Bre`s, a Reformed Belgian preacher. Article 22 contains these statements:</p>
<blockquote><p>“And therefore we justly say with Paul that we are justified “by faith alone” or by faith “apart from works” (Romans 3:28). However, we do not mean, properly speaking, that it is faith itself that justifies us – for faith is only the instrument by which we embrace Christ, our righteousness. But Jesus Christ is our righteousness in making available to us all his merits and all the holy works he has done for us and in our place. And faith is the instrument that keeps us together with him in communion with all his benefits. When those benefits are made ours they are more than enough to absolve us of our sins.”</p></blockquote>
<p><strong>The Westminster Confession of Faith (1647)</strong> was written by 131 pastors and 30 laymen at Wesminster Abbey in London. It is a Puritan Calvinist creed.</p>
<blockquote><p>XI.1 :“Those whom God effectually calleth he also freely justifieth; not by infusing righteousness into them, but by pardoning their sins, and by accounting and accepting their persons as righteous; not for anything wrought in them, or done by them, but for Christ’s sake alone; &#8230;.by imputing the obedience and satisfaction of Christ unto them, they receiving and resting on him and his righteousness by faith; which faith they have not of themselves, it is the gift of God.”</p>
<p>“Faith thus receiving and resting on Christ and his righteousness, is the [only instrument] of justification; yet is it not alone in the person justified, but is ever accompanied with all other saving graces, and is no dead faith, but worketh by love.”</p></blockquote>
<p>This message of justification, especially the positive imputation of Christ&#8217;s righteousness and its manifold applications, have not been preached much from most Protestant pulpits. The  Pentecostals and charismatics and other evangelicals have preached being regenerated and sanctified and anointed, but not much on being justified. Even traditional denominations like the Presbyterians, Methodists,Anglicans, Lutherans have jettisoned justification, deemed as risky and with an antinomian aftertaste, in favor of a more popular taste: the &#8220;char kway teow&#8221; of user-friendly, practical sermons. My plea is for a more Reformation flavor in our pulpits, especially, the one that is at the heart of the gospel: the message of justification. This is something all churches must do if they want to have healthy disciples. We lose a great source of assurance if we do not. This is my firm conviction.</p>
<p>(Source:  Hoekema, Anthony A. &#8220;Saved by Grace&#8221;, Grand Rapids, Eerdmans, 1989, p 170-172)</p>
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		<title>Kuching, Sarawak and the St Thomas Cathedral</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 25 Jul 2010 11:06:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Roots in Kuching
It was an old photo hanging on the wall of my uncle&#8217;s house that caught my attention. Interested as I was with my earthly roots, I took a few shots with my mobile. It was my maternal grandparents&#8217; wedding photograph. They looked forward, stiff and formal &#8211; the common pose in those days. [...]]]></description>
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<p>It was an old photo hanging on the wall of my uncle&#8217;s house that caught my attention. Interested as I was with my earthly roots, I took a few shots with my mobile. It was my maternal grandparents&#8217; wedding photograph. They looked forward, stiff and formal &#8211; the common pose in those days. The name of the church was St Thomas Cathedral in Kuching. This photo kindled a desire to visit Kuching one day and walk that building and the city. This week while googling for places of interest in Kuching, I stumbled on St Thomas Cathedral. Its a lovely building, and had quite a rich, colourful past. At YouTube, I did a virtual tour of the Cathedral and learned about its history(see below) &#8211; almost everything I had wanted to know.</p>
<p><strong>Short vacation</strong></p>
<p>Even so, next weekend my family and I will take a short vacation there. Catch a popular day tour, walk the Waterfront, avoid headhunting Dayaks, and &#8220;die die <a href="http://www.blogpastor.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/cny08005.JPG"><img class="size-large wp-image-2251 alignright" src="http://www.blogpastor.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/cny08005-580x435.jpg" alt="" width="209" height="157" /></a>must try&#8221; the Sarawak laksa and kolo mee. Sarawak has the largest percentage of Christians of all the states in Malaysia. We look forward to  worshipping with a living body of Christians called Grace SIB. Just recently, I heard from pastor Peter Sze about this church and he connected me to Alan Hiu via Facebook. Alan has graciously offered to bring us there from the hotel.</p>
<p>Who knows, I may meet some distant relative from both the paternal or maternal side of my family of origin there.</p>
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		<title>Megachurches: authorities curbing the giants&#8217; growth?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Jul 2010 12:58:51 +0000</pubDate>
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Grey area
Religious usage of facilities approved for commercial use was a grey area. The previous guidelines were not clear. Can a church use a cinema hall? Or a hall in an office complex, hotel, industrial building or conference centre? No one knew. If no one complained, the authorities would let things be. The public concerns [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Grey area</strong></p>
<p>Religious usage of facilities approved for commercial use was a grey area. The previous guidelines were not clear. Can a church use a cinema hall? Or a hall in an office complex, hotel, industrial building or conference centre? No one knew. If no one complained, the authorities would let things be. The public concerns over recent megachurch plans have prompted the authorities to set guidelines. They have drawn a line in the sand. On the whole the clarity is to be welcomed, but it may affect the giants of the land: the highly visible megachurches.</p>
<p><strong>New guidelines affect megachurches</strong></p>
<p>One new guideline is: &#8220;Each religious organisation is limited to use up to 10,000 sqm in any commercial space at any one time&#8221;.  10,000 sqm is huge for a small or midsized church but likely a squeeze for megachurches wanting to expand further without increasing the number of worship services on offer. Doing an amateur calculation, if seating 1 person needs only 1 sqm, at least 10,000 should be able to have seating space. With seating for 5,000, the church will still have space leftover for  other things like aisles,  the  children&#8217;s church, reception area and other things. At least 3 churches will be taking out their calculators and talking with their architects.</p>
<p>Another guideline that puts a lid on growth is that it can only be used twice in the week. Saturday and Sunday services are what most megachurches in commercial facilities have presently. In other countries, some churches hold services almost every night because the weekend services have been already been maximized to meet the burgeoning congregation. This won&#8217;t be possible for the megachurches using commercial space.</p>
<p><strong>Questionable motives?</strong></p>
<p>It is doubtful that the authorities are trying to curb the growth of megachurches since the guidelines are quite generous. They say no religious group is being targetted but it was likely that the rise of the megachurches and their recent publicity raised issues that just demanded clarification. Whatever the case may be, churches are too resilient to be limited by physical space or guidelines. Especially with today&#8217;s technological advances.</p>
<p>Here is part of the guidelines but read the full online article in the <a href="http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_555680.html">straitstimes.com:</a></p>
<blockquote><p>The guidelines, set by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports and Urban Redevelopment Authority, allow some flexibility for the limited use of commercial premises for religious purposes, while ensuring that the main use of the building is not compromised.</p>
<p>&#8216;Though religious activities are generally not allowed in commercial buildings, URA is prepared to exercise some flexibility and allow commercial premises to be used in a limited, non-exclusive way by religious groups,&#8217; said joint news statement on Tuesday.</p>
<p>Some of the new rules set limits on how often regilious groups can use commercial spaces for their activities, and a cap for the space they can take up for religious activities in any commercial building at any one time.</p>
<p>For example, the maximum space within a commercial development that can be considered for religious use cannot exceed a total gross floor area of 20,000 sqm or 20 per cent of the total area of the development, which is lower.</p>
<p>Each religious organisation is limited to use up to 10,000 sqm in any commercial space at any one time.</p>
<p>The premises also cannot be owned by or exclusively leased to religious organisations.</p>
<p>Owners of convention centres must ensure that the reglious use does not compromise the staging for events during weekend, added the statement.</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Small and mega churches: living in a land with giants</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Jul 2010 07:28:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Gritty days ahead
The  Saturday&#8217;s Straits Times special report by Lee Siew Hua and Susan Long was an excellent analysis of the church scene in Singapore, albeit with a slant towards the currently newsworthy megachurches. Reading the well researched and eye-opening articles can give the majority of small churches a feeling of creeping muscular dystrophy. There [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Gritty days ahead</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://www.blogpastor.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/in-the-land-of-giants.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-2228" title="in the land of giants" src="http://www.blogpastor.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/in-the-land-of-giants.jpg" alt="in the land of giants" width="85" height="127" /></a>The  Saturday&#8217;s Straits Times special report by Lee Siew Hua and Susan Long was an excellent analysis of the church scene in Singapore, albeit with a slant towards the currently newsworthy megachurches. Reading the well researched and eye-opening articles can give the majority of small churches a feeling of creeping muscular dystrophy. There are giants in the land and they have no time for the small. The mega churches in cavernous expo halls or high up in the city centre, cast vast shadows over the middle earth of small and micro churches. It generates an apprehension of imminent dark creatures and clouds about to devour all things small and micro. It will take hobbit-like qualities, a strong fellowship of the small, to survive, indeed to triumph, in such gritty days.</p>
<p><strong>God’s kingdom</strong></p>
<p>We need to start off with a biblical perspective. In God’s kingdom all kinds and all sizes have a place. The Creator God who factored variety and beauty into the universe he made knows this better than us. To reach people of different cultures and personalities, the world needs to have churches of all kinds and sizes. So God said, Let there be all kinds and all sizes for we need them all. As small and micro churches we must walk upright with the assurance that the Father wants to give the kingdom to the little flock as well. The small and micro churches, outwardly as short and whiny as hobbits, has a significant role to play: they can reach and disciple people the megachurch cannot reach.</p>
<p><strong>Close the manhole</strong></p>
<p>As we read the articles, we can easily trip into the open manhole of comparison. The reader who attends the megachurch feels superior. They have the better everything: bigger crowds, building, budget. Theirs the inspiring vision, the charismatic leader, the touching worship, the professional operations, the longer queues. The 90% who worship in smaller churches can feel discouraged, inferior, and critical. Some leaders of small churches will stupidly think, “If they can do it, we can do it too!” They are like parents who think every child can be a President’s Scholar: just have the right vision, strategy, motivation and implementation and &#8230;.boomz!</p>
<p>The Straits Times articles stated that the megachurches hire full-time professionals to be their musicians. That’s why they have such technically excellent music. Can the small church compare with that musical standard and ever hope to get there. More likely she would be discouraged and self-condemned before she even starts.  And this is just the music. What about the administration, the aesthetics, the multiple ministries, the charisma, the critical mass of young people, and all the bangs and whistles. Comparison in whatever form is a fall into a deep, dark stinking hole.</p>
<p><strong>Leverage on the strengths</strong></p>
<p>Small churches should remember their strengths and leverage on them. Small churches need to take a page from the epic movie “The Lord of the Rings”. The hobbits were focused on a clear purpose. they were authentic, close-knit, loyal, and incorruptible. The small church needs to focus on making disciples. Preaching  the Gospel to the pre-believers and and teaching the Gospel systematically to  the baptized is crucial for the process of disciple-making. Making disciples, not en masse, but one by one, each personally and lovingly handcrafted, like Swiss watches (not like  the mass produced plastic Swatch).  The  disciple will be authentic and believes he can become all that he already is in Christ. The small church should also leverage on its natural strength of being more like a loving family than an unfeeling, bureaucratic corporation. It can  major on delivering intimacy and community. Furthermore, very hobbit, I mean every disciple, in the small church can be equipped and deployed to function in his God-given role in the fellowship, unlike in the megachurch, and this is a big advantage the small church has in helping disciples find discover purpose.</p>
<p><strong>Apostolic mentality</strong></p>
<p>Yes, I have intriguingly cast the mega churches as Lord Sauron and all his army of followers as those dug from the gravel, and made alive by magic. There’s a twist in the story. The real truth is that Lord Sauron is Satan and his minions, and the Fellowship of the Ring includes the big guys and the small guys. The big guys are the mega churches, and the hobbits, well, they are the small churches. We are bonded like an imperfect family on this journey to defeat Satan. There will be distrust, fear, greed, misunderstanding, and suspicion as we move along towards our destination. Only together and by His grace will the job get done. We know this will definitely end in a climatic consummation when Jesus comes in glory and final victory is established on this earth. This is apostolic eyes: seeing mega and small and micro as one church of Singapore, the way God sees it. We are not competing; we complete each other.</p>
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		<title>What pastors can learn from Ms Sumiko Tan</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Jul 2010 22:00:29 +0000</pubDate>
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Who is Sumiko?
Can a pastor learn anything from Singapore’s “most famous single woman”? Ms Sumiko Tan, 46, is a Straits Times editor. Her Sunday Times column, which began in July 1994, is famous and with it she has grown a mega fan base. Like a confession booth to which the public has access instead of [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Who is Sumiko?</strong></p>
<p>Can a pastor learn anything from Singapore’s “most famous single woman”? Ms Sumiko Tan, 46, is a Straits Times editor. Her Sunday Times column, which began in July 1994, is famous and with it she has grown a mega fan base. Like a confession booth to which the public has access instead of a priest, she bares her soul and pours out the angst of a successful but lonely single career woman. The public always grants her absolution. The single woman identifies with her pain; the single man wants to rescue her from her emotional plight; the marrieds feel they have made the right choice in getting married and having children.</p>
<p>One blogger, <a href="http://jeremyyew.com/2010/06/25/dreams-do-come-true/">Jeremy Yew</a>, says this about her:</p>
<blockquote><p>“Let’s face it folks, Sumiko Tan’s column is Singapore’s favourite and most well-known real-life soap opera. Her musings on life, and especially on love, or the lack of it, have been well-documented in the Sunday Times. We all read her columns because she’s the only one who dares to bare her soul to the nation. Very few things in life resonate better with an audience than someone telling the world that she has not been able to find true love. Sumiko wasn’t afraid to tell Singapore about her inability to find a life partner and her immense regret that she may have missed the proverbial boat”.</p></blockquote>
<p><strong>People want authenticity</strong></p>
<p>In a way, she was a blogger ahead of her times. She shared her life as it was. No mask. No veneer. It took courage to be open and honest, for it made her vulnerable to personal attacks from online hate forums. The rewards of doing so are greater than the risks. Her fans feel a close emotional bond to her. Thousands of singles could relate and identify with her feelings and that alone was very helpful for them. With her recent plan to marry, many found joy, comfort and hope. She helps her readers because of her transparency in sharing her trials and tribulations and secret feelings. Look at this example from “Feeling Half A Woman”:</p>
<blockquote><p>“Again, it&#8217;s not that I look on enviously at couples. I really don&#8217;t. I&#8217;m happy with my life. But once in a while, it hits me that maybe there&#8217;s something wrong with me. It doesn&#8217;t matter how I love my single life. It doesn&#8217;t matter that I have all the personal space in the world. It doesn&#8217;t matter what I&#8217;ve achieved in my career. It doesn&#8217;t matter how I know it&#8217;s better to be alone than to be alone in a marriage. It doesn&#8217;t matter that I&#8217;ve seen how marriage isn&#8217;t a binding contract or a guarantee of a happy-ever-after. It doesn&#8217;t matter how many boyfriends I&#8217;ve had or might have. It doesn&#8217;t matter if there are men who care for my well-being. The fact remains that I am not married, and I say this not in a self-pitying way but as an acknowledgment of a, to me, puzzling fact. And the fact remains that no one has been mad enough about me &#8211; and I for him &#8211; for us to embark on a journey together. The fact remains that no matter how fun singlehood is, there are nights when I lie in my nice big bed all by my lonesome self (well, actually my dog sleeps with me), and think: Is there something wrong with me? Is this all there is to life? Why aren&#8217;t I married? Am I not good enough? Am I not lovable enough? Am I not capable of loving deeply and permanently? Have I been too fussy? Do I have bad karma? Don&#8217;t I deserve more? My mother was married, my sister is married, Michelle Obama is married, the woman who cleans the office pantry is married, so many &#8216;normal&#8217; women are married, why not me? Have I failed as a woman? Am I inadequate?”</p></blockquote>
<p><strong>A dash of transparency in the pulpit</strong></p>
<p>We need a little of this kind of transparency from our pulpits. Not every Sunday please. Just occasionally. Pastors do not share such personal disclosures because they feel it is unprofessional. Or they are plain afraid to let people know who they really are. They fear they will lose the trust of the congregation and therefore their ability to disciple them. The vulnerability and risks are too much for most to accept. Or their church culture does not allow it. They do not want to be misunderstood of navel-gazing. Or they subscribe to a teaching that frowns on confessions of weakness or negativity.</p>
<p><strong>Bible examples</strong></p>
<p>The Bible gives a few examples when great men bared their souls without shame. It was said of Jesus at the garden of Gethsemane, “&#8230;he began to be sorrowful and troubled. Then he said to them, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.”(Matt 26:37,38). Paul the apostle bared his heart, “We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death” and, “we were harassed at every turn &#8211; conflicts on the outside, fears within. But God, who comforts the downcast, comforted us&#8230;”(2 Cor 1:8,9;  7:5,6). They talked about overwhelming sorrow and pressure, the feeling of hopelessness, of fear and depression. They were secure and did not feel like they had to project success and victory all the time.</p>
<p><strong>Pastors baring their souls</strong></p>
<p>We pastors should bare our souls every now and then about our journey. Our congregation needs to identify with us in our struggles and weaknesses, our journey of failure and not just victory. This will build solid bonds of intimacy and trust. It will also lubricate discipleship and spiritual formation. In addition, authenticity is what modern believers are searching for and they know instinctively that the “know it all” and “have sorted it all” kind of preacher are not real but fake projections. We need to own up.</p>
<p>This is what pastors can learn from Sumiko Tan: allowing the church family to know us as we really are; and allowing them to accept and love us despite what is known. This is healing and wholeness for us and for the church.</p>
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