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Learning something new

By kenny, 1 March, 2010, 6 Comments

Took a break from blogging and tried oil painting. Never had proper art classes and was in the science stream but why should I let that deter me from learning. Don’t ridicule my first effort, a painting based on a photograph taken while climbing Mt Kinabalu. I had good help from Peter Tan, an old friend, who also took up painting just a few years ago. It was relaxing, and I hope it will be something I enjoy more and more.

mt kinabalu - first "draft"?

Lord why am I doing this?

“Dear, don’t bother to come home”

By kenny, 26 February, 2010, 8 Comments

Elaine in the centerI have followed English football since I was in secondary school. I was even in Bolton, England. The closest I got to a football match was shopping at Tesco under the Reebok Stadium. My daughter Elaine does not follow football. She asks the odd question and get answers from me (Arsenal fan), Joshua (Chelsea fan), and Matthew(Liverpool fan). Yet she has entered the Old Trafford of the Manchester United in front of RooneyFootball Club and watched a football match where the host played West Ham Utd. You can call this grace! The person who worked got nothing; the one who was not even looking experienced the Old Trafford atmosphere. I sent her a terse message on her wall in her Facebook, “Dear, if you decide to become a Man Utd fan, don’t bother to come home. Love, Dad” :)

Chee Kwee Kin: the Chee patriarch and a Fuzhou odyssey

By kenny, 15 February, 2010, 9 Comments

As I trudged the path of duty, visiting and paying respect to my elders during the first day of Chinese New Year, I uncovered an unlikely treasure. It was at the main Chee gathering at Kasai Road, at the home of Chee Siew Kee, the sole surviving uncle at age 98.  My cousin David Chee, who was a  missions official in the USA, mentioned that he had done some research on the Chee family roots. He had put down the fruit of his research in English in a blog called the Fuzhou Odyssey. He was effectively bilingual and had access to the Chinese source materials, like clan records. Back home from visits, and with an interest I never had when I was younger, I read the detailed blog posts which set the story of my paternal grandfather in its historical context. If there had been footnotes I would have thought this was some kind of research paper.

I will summarize the story of my paternal grandfather, Chee Kwee Kin, in a letter addressed to my sons and daughter:

DEAR JOSHUA, MATTHEW & ELAINE,

You have an interesting family line: one you can thank God for, one you can be proud of, one that can help you understand yourself. Of course your spiritual lineage that goes back to father Abraham is far more important. However, you were brought into this world through this human lineage and there is a design in that too.

Your paternal great-grandfather was Chee Kwee Kin, a Chinese scholar and a Qing government official. He was politically a reformist with personal acquaintance with well-known China reformist of his time, Kang Yu-wei. For a time he taught at Chang-chien Shan’s Ho-lin Anglo Chinese School at Foochow. In 1893, he emigrated to Singapore with his family to fill a position as editor of Le Pao, a daily newspaper. He later filled similar positions in two other newpapers: the Thien Nan Chin Pao, Penang Ri Bao, and in his writings he strenuously resisted the intrusion of foreign imperialism. He was a China nationalist in his editorial slant. While serving as editor he survived an assassination attempt on his life.

Your great-grandfather ran a business by the Singapore river and founded the Singapore Foochow Business Association.  He also founded the Foochow Labourer’s Association, for labourers to gather, obtain help in their work, and in buying property.

He was involved in charitable work. He practiced medicine (TCM), “healing lots of people and upholding the ethics of the profession” (according to a locally published book). In 1909, he sent money to China to help build a school. He also organized fund-raising to alleviate suffering from flood and fires in China(1931) and in Sibu(1931), Sarawak.

Like most Chinese he was a great believer in education. He foresaw that the future of his country of exile was tied with an education in English and ensured his children had a western education, and even sent some of his sons overseas, three of whom studied Western medicine. He made sure his daughters were educated too. However, as in the practice of a Chinese scholar, he hired tutors to school all his children in the Chinese classics.

As to his personality, he was generally a serious person, but on occasion had been seen teasing grandmother with the singing of Chinese opera verse. He loved Peking Chinese opera.

His loyalty was unquestionably to China, and he did not fail to dedicate himself to his people living in Nanyang. When he died, his body was shipped back to Foochow to be buried.

I still find it hard to believe my grandfather was so Chinese Chinese. Two generations later and his descendants ( maybe I should just speak for myself here) have become unrecognizably and irreversibly “banana”(yellow on the outside but white on the inside: look Chinese but dominated by Western values). My grandfather was a Chinese scholar, but I know only a smattering of Mandarin, and much less about Chinese literature and history. He was a proud Confucianist and a China loyalist. I am neither, though being Chinese in Singapore means being lightly marinated in Confucianist values like respect of elders, teachers and emperor (LKY). I am a cultural apostate and my grandfather will rise from the grave if he knew how far I have strayed from the Chinese spring. Maybe he should have sent his sons to Chinese High School instead of the ACS.

Among your relatives are many teachers, doctors, civil servants, businessmen and those who love to write (like me) and those in vocational Christian service and politics. It seems that Chee Kwee Kin has cast his shadow of influence over his later generations, even seeming to have a bearing on his descendant’s choice of occupations. This is something interesting for you to think about:  nature and nurture, as it applies in family lineage.

I still puzzle over Chee Kwee Kin’s personal faith. Was he a Christian or just open to Christianity? Why was he teaching in ACS in Foochow? I had thought my grandfather was from Sibu, the “Sarawak Foochow”,  an assumption I derived from where the clan records are kept and from hearsay. Where does that fit in? There are puzzles yet to be resolved and as in all family history, discerning verifiable facts from misty memory and recollection is an arduous ongoing task. That task will become yours when you are older. It will be easier for you though, when it comes to telling your children about me because this blog gives you access not just to my outward activities but also some of my opinions, personality, beliefs and feelings. :)

WITH LOVE, DAD

Chinese New Year: riding the Tiger

By kenny, 13 February, 2010, 2 Comments

ang pow givingNever liked it

I never liked Chinese New Year after they banned firecrackers. Visiting relatives aroused anxieties, like riding a tiger. Even as a child and teenager, I found it such a drag. I would rehearse the proper Hokkien designations so I can properly greet the elders and relatives. I would sit, snack,  look often at the time and fidget while the older ones talked.

Consolation is red in colour

The only redeeming factor was the red packets of gift money. They were the consolation prize for all the awkwardness. I waited anxiously for the day to end so I could tally the return on investment.

Respect ritual

Now as an adult I find it perfunctory, a ritual to satisfy family and custom. I do it out of duty. My mum used to say the relatives were very old and may go off  anytime soon. Have to pay respects. Now she has gone and the relatives are still around. So it means the show must go on. If given a choice, I would rather not go anywhere at all and just hide out at home or in another country or climb Kinabalu or the Hill in the company of singing cicadas. I am an introvert after all.

The important red packets and even more important wife

Every year I see my wife hunched over new crisp dollar notes of different denominations (yea, Presbyterian, Methodists, Anglicans, even Pentecostals, haha), and lots of different red packets of different banks ( OCBC, DBS, POSB, NTUC, Keppel Corp, haha) spread all over the queen sized angpowsbed. With the seriousness, alertness and focus of a bank teller she puts in the appropriate amounts into the different envelopes. She does it every year without fail, while I watch TV or surf or read. She also distributes the red stuff with precision and knowledge and swiftness. I would be at a complete loss without her! All I need to know is the total that goes out, in fact not even that. I do not have to feel bad if too much is given or too little. That burden is hers exclusively. That is her “karma”….a word used quite often the last few days.

Spring cleaning

Spring cleaning fervour has waned with the years. It’s tiring nowadays just to think about what I used to do. Doing the minimum critical tasks, like re-arranging furniture, dusting, cleaning glass tops, etc., to lubricate family harmony and to present a neat, clean home will have to suffice.

The great escape that never happened

Every year I harbour alluring mirages of going off to some place emerald green or blue to escape all the red and hassle. The mirage evaporates each and every time the full moon smirks. It’s all about obligations, respect, expectations, unique circumstances like CNY being also the study week before exams, or conscience playing tricks.

Spare the singles lah

Singles who are over 30 really have it blue and black during CNY. They don’t need the ang pows and patronizing, teasing comments. I used to have fun with that but I have repented. Some words can rub the wrong way and break the bones, and the clinics are closed. Some of the fractures inflicted on them are by well intentioned uncles and aunties, frustrated mums and dads, and kindly grandparents. We should be gracious to singles and bless them with God’s shalom.

BLOGPASTOR WISHES EVERYONE GONG XI FA CAI :)

Off to Manchester for a semester

By kenny, 23 January, 2010, 11 Comments

bye-bye dinnerMy daughter Elaine went to stay with my wife’s sister and husband, Amy and Mike in Bolton, England. This is the coldest in England in perhaps two decades. All of us are going to miss her but she is all wrapped up in warm comfort and care.

She will be an exchange student in the University of Manchester for a semester. How the Lord opened the way and provided the funds for her to go there is a testimony in itself. We are grateful to God for his undeserved blessings, and theAmy and Mike generosity of friends and family.

We were with her on skype and she looked happy and spoilt! She showed us a smart jacket and some warm turtleneck from sales there- snazzy stuff. We were happy for her and appreciated the Blyths for the love and generosity in hosting her for the period.

As all football fans know, Manchester is the home of the world’s second most famous football club: Manchester City FC. In case you wonder which is the most famous, and greatest, it is Arsenal FC.   :)

They’re all growing up fast

By kenny, 14 January, 2010, No Comment
Christmas event photo

L to R: Joshua, Elaine, Kenny, Wen Mun, Matthew, Wen Por

Wen Por and Wen Mun live in Bangkok and study in an international school there. Their mum, Baby, is my wife’s younger sister, a Singaporean who has worked there, met her husband and now has her home there for over twenty years. Her husband Jack, is Taiwanese, and they run a trading business there. They have visited us over more than a decade now, usually during the Christmas season and they are great to have around. They are very well brought up and well behaved and this time it struck me that they are mature young folk and love doing things young people love doing. They are no longer young kids. So my son and daughter who were on vacation brought them to an overdose of shopping, church events, and activities and I am sure it built strong bonds of love.

My grandparents were from Sarawak

By kenny, 7 January, 2010, 3 Comments

my mum's family of origin: Law family

My wife and I were tidying up our drawers recently and we found some old documents like this photo above and my mum’s family tree. My mum Ada Law, is the girl on the extreme left, next to her frowning mum, my grandmother, Beatrice Kho. The father John Law was probably taking the photo. The interesting thing were the two boys in the front wearing shorts. One is James and the other is Harry. Both went missing during the Japanese Occupation, presumably taken away and killed by Japanese soldiers. My mum before the onset of Alzeihmer’s disease, harboured bitter memories about their deaths.

I also learned that my grandparents and great-grandparents were from Kuching and there are relatives I do not know who still live there. And my father’s family came from Sibu. So they were all Sarawakians.

Among my aunties was one who married a Malacca man, an Ahmad Derus, who had ten children and twenty-nine grand-children. The aunty, Mable Law, married him, and had one son, Johan, before she passed away. The rest were born to the second wife, a Connie Jacobs. We still have contacts with Johan.

Knowing this also made me think: I must try to visit Sarawak one day. Even if I cannot meet my relatives, I am sure there is a mountain to trek there. :)

(This blogpost was first published on August 17th, 2006 and I want to make available this information for myself and posterity by republishing it.)

Korean Eating Durian

By kenny, 25 December, 2009, No Comment

durianOne fun thing we do with foreign guests who visit our home is to let them try durians. We love giving them an “exotic” experience and watching their reactions. My son got to know a Korean friend in the Sisters of Mary and he passed through Singapore on his way back. We videotaped his “bitter” experience. As it turned out Koreans seem to find the durians unique flavour acceptable.

Sister Rubina, Derrick and Connie Jacobs

By kenny, 17 December, 2009, 5 Comments

S. Rubina with Kenny and Jenny

It was several months ago when Sister Rubina from the Sisters of Mary, Australia visited her family in Singapore. I met her at Nat and Janice’s registration of marriage, and then later she shared an exhortation about first love for Jesus in our Sunday church service, and we had lunch with her and her parents. Her parents, Derrick and Connie Jacobs, are old friends and excellent examples of godly couples who grey graciously, strong in faith, and contentment.

Derrick and Connie Jacobs

I have known Sister Rubina and her parents way back in the late 1970’s. They attended our church and I was sent to help the home fellowship in Derrick Jacob’s home. I remember long bus commutes from Hillview in the west to the Parbury area in the east, fellowship, prayer times and returning home very late. I cannot remember how long this went on but I do remember  that I baptized Rubina in the East Coast sea. Revival fires were still burning in those early days.

Derrick Jacobs went on to start “The Christian Library” ministry and recently I visited him again and had fellowship in the office. Besides lending out books they carry a large array of messages in digital formats and they are available for sale. Take a look if you are interested: www.thechristianlibrary.com.sg

Raphael Samuel goes back to Bolivian missions

By kenny, 29 November, 2009, 3 Comments

Lord let the bonds of love continue till kingdom come, for friendships are your gifts to us.

We had a nice lunch at the Bukit Gombak CDANS restuarant to say goodbye to Archdeacon Raphael Samuel, Anglican priest and missionary. My good friend and classmate is flying back to Santa Cruz, Bolivia.  Back to his missions field. He goes with his wife and son but the son will return later to study business in the Nanyang Technological University. He’s been here for two years and during that time he was ministering in Christchurch Anglican Church, a Tamil congregation near Kandang Kerbau Hospital. During the two years we have had several occasions to fellowship and support each other and to have those reunions with bible school classmates whenever Rev. Benedict Muthusamy, a Malaysian Presbyterian minister and moderator, or Dr TanYak Hwee, a seminary lecturer in Taiwan drops over. We have been meeting like that for over 20 years, since we all graduated in 1985 from Trinity Theological College. Goon Heo and myself are the ever-present core in this group. I wonder if other cohorts and classes have this kind of regular enduring get-togethers. So much strength and sharpening can be gained from such friendships.