I have never written a reflection about a Korean drama series. My Mister (Ahjussi) will be the first because it depicted a painful process, that of a progression from being trapped and lifeless to being a free and breathing human being.
The series has completed its run and I was impressed. It was not a K-drama with the typical motifs: poor girl marries rich man; a lost child (now grown up) meets his or her mother; a hit-and-run accident; two characters initially at odds with each other later falls in love; the rich are arrogant, powerful, and evil while the poor and the common person is kind, resourceful and hardworking.
This drama is a breed apart; it has none of the abovementioned elements. It has qualities about it that viewers will find they can strongly identify with: the brokenness and fragility of the characters and their relationships; the hollowness and sourness of life; the burdens of living up to everybody’s expectations. This is very real and akin to our spiritual journey.
My Mister tells the story of three middle-aged brothers, who are enduring the weight of their lives, and a strong, cold woman, who has been living a hard life of her own, as they come together in healing each other’s past scars.
Lee Sun-kyun (actor) is Park Dong-hoon, the second oldest of the three brothers. He works as an engineer at an architectural firm and always has a safety-first approach to life. He is quiet and stoic, but also goes all in for the people he loves.
IU (singer-actor) plays Lee Ji-an, a woman who endures many hardships in life. She is paid for finding out Park Dong-hoon’s weaknesses and getting him fired, at the command of the CEO of the company she is temporarily working for, but soon ends up falling for Park’s integrity and kindness, and finally learning to trust someone (the synopsis here is adapted from Wikipedia).
The screenwriter, director and actors worked together to produce a beautiful, meaningful and multi-layered piece about the human journey. I recommend you watch the whole drama online.
The drama begins dark and continues dark and heavy. Many of the early scenes were in dim lighting, in streets and homes and bar. Then as the drama progresses, and as the main characters struggle towards finding their true selves, it got brighter and more cheery in the final two episodes.
The brokenness and misery is portrayed raw from the beginning. The three brothers, loyal but each one rotting in his misery: one a failed and divorced businessman who over-drinks; another a former film director plagued with guilt and a fear of failure; and the hero, bullied at work, disdained by his wife, with repressed frustrations and anger. His brothers moan, drink, wail, squabble, and lounge around but the hero numbly holds back his feelings.
The run-down poorly-lit streets and houses, dated bar and middle-aged friends of the neighbourhood, whose careers and fortunes had plummeted, give the drama a depressive sinking feel. The only flicker of hope is the serene acceptance of their present lot in life and their shared empathy.
However, it cannot be compared with the suffering and hardship and crushing poverty of the heroine, Lee Ji An. Bereaved of her parents while a child she grew up with her deaf grandmother, both living in fear of bullying and violent moneylenders (first the father, and then after the father was killed by the heroine in a case of manslaughter, the son) who pitilessly beat both of them up. They rent a small bare place and work relentlessly to pay back the loan, furtively eating leftover food while working in restaurants. Her heart has grown hard and cold. She cannot trust outsiders and thinks nobody understands her. She feel trapped in a bottomless hole of guilt, and feels totally numb to violence and bullying, and has no hope of ever getting out. She cannot get past societal condemnation even though she was acquitted in court. But she is a survivor, resourceful and quick-witted.
Ji Ann’s journey towards freedom began when she became a temp in the hero’s department. She was paid and tasked by the CEO, who was having an affair with the hero’s wife, to discover the hero’s weaknesses so that the CEO could fire him. She wiretapped the hero’s phone and overhears everything he says at work, on his phone, at home, when he is with his brothers and friends. The more she got to know him, the more her respect and admiration and empathy for him grew. Knowing, interacting with him, and trusting him led to her freedom.
SHE EXPERIENCED THE KINDNESS OF THE HERO. He helped her bedridden grandmother up steep hill to their home and bought food for he grandmother. He helped her grandmother enter a nursing home.
He tried to solve her debt problem and even fought against the moneylender. When her grandmother died, he arranged her funeral and his brother got the community to attend and pay respect. With so much kindness and goodness, the heroine’s defences were breached. She became appreciative and grateful and loyal to him. He even forgave her of her wrongdoing in wiretapping him.
HE WAS A PERSON OF INTEGRITY & TRUSTWORTHY. He was fair and protected her at the workplace. He invited her to join the permanent staff for dinner. He rejected her advances and almost sacked her for that. He treated her with respect. He never talked behind her back.
HE VIEWED HER POSITIVELY, AND THAT HELPED HER TO SEE HERSELF POSITIVELY. He said to her, You are good, after he saw how she worked so hard to care for her grandmother. He spoke up for her to the moneylender, in front of other directors, and when he was with his friends and colleagues. Thus she was able to shed aside her years of shame and condemnation. He asked her to confess her wrong to be forgiven, which she did and it brought her freedom from condemnation and self-hatred.
SHE IDENTIFIED WITH HIM IN HIS PAIN AND SUFFERING. She saw how was bullied and humiliated at work, cheated by the CEO and his wife, and the silent pain and agony of being betrayed. Their common pain and misery fused them invisibly. She felt he alone would understand and sympathize with her own personal suffering and pain too. She could only trust a man who has also suffered much.
HE INTRODUCED HER TO HIS COMMUNITY OF FRIENDS AND THERE SHE FOUND ACCEPTANCE AND LOVE AND FELLOW-SUFFERERS.
All these gave her the courage to hope, to leave the painful past behind, and to reach out for a new, free, more human Ji An. At the last episode, she was shown with a new job, smiling and conversing with friends, well dressed with nice shoes, and the permanent job tag around her neck. She had moved. From being trapped to being free. From living in isolation and fear, to having a sense of belonging and hope. From one with cold dead eyes to being fully alive.
Isn’t this a picture of a person dead in sins being made alive in Christ?
What of the hero Park Dong Hoon? He was a wounded healer. Trapped and bullied at work and suffering silently in a dead shell of a marriage, the hero was miserable and sought to forget his problems in the company of his beer drinking brothers and weekend football. All his pain and anger had been repressed as he tried to live up to everyone else’s expectations of him. He had not attended to his own needs and pain.
Unknown to him, his movement to being alive and free from the expectations and constraints of society would be facilitated by an unlikely character: the temp he hired, the heroine.
SHE BROUGHT OUT HIS BEST & TRUE SELF. He had to boldly act with fairness and kindness on different occasions in the face of being misunderstood as being in love with her. He went against cultural expectations of workplace culture and community and family. The many steps of courage strengthened his muscles to leave the safety of the big corporation and strike out on his own.
HE FOUND DEEP SOLIDARITY WITH HER LIFE EXPERIENCES. He found that he could identify so closely with the heroine’s feelings of crushing burden and misery of life, feeling trapped and without power and hope. This was a great comfort and encouragement to him. If she could go on, so can he.
HER TRUST, GRATITUDE, & LOYALTY TO HIM WAS LIKE MEDICINE FOR HIS WOUNDED HEART. Meeting someone who understood him deeply(unlike his own wife), who was fiercely loyal to him(unlike his own wife), and who would sacrifice herself for him (unlike his own wife) was like medicine to a wounded soul. She knew when he felt depressed, defeated and discouraged and she encouraged him(unlike his own wife). She even rescued his marriage and helped him get promoted(unlike his own wife).
HE OWNED HIS FEELINGS & EXPRESSED THEM. He was numb to his feelings and could not name his submerged rage, shame, hatred and wounds of humiliation. But when he named them and expressed them and was later able to let everyone know he was a cuckold, he was set free from trying to keep secret his shame and to save face, and able to be his true self. What could be a worse shame for a man than being viewed as a cuckold? Freed from shackles imposed by a culture of shame, guilt and duty.
In the last two episodes, we see more smiles from the hero and heroine – rare sight in earlier episodes. We noice that the hero has moved. From being a flat, play-it-safe and bullied engineer, Park Dong Hoon became someone who dared to leave the chaebol and strike it out on his own, make lots of money, be freed from office politics, and enjoyed his work and new found happiness. When the heroine and hero bumped into each other we see both hero and heroine smile broadly, proudly and happily.
THIS WOULD BE THE FIRST TIME IN THE WHOLE DRAMA THAT EITHER OF THEM SMILED SO HAPPILY!
Fully human and fully alive – at last! The journey to be fully human is a difficult struggle, but very much worth the pain one goes through.
Here are some enchanting songs from the drama that grow on you the more you listen and read the lyrics:
Hmm Im sorry to ask but do you think he was just misconstrued as being in love with her? In your point of view, is that so bad and not an actual possibility? Or in the grander scheme of things, in what the story was trying to tell, whether he is or not, doesnt matter because that is not the main point of the story?
Interesting thoughts Ann. It seems the screenwriter intended to explore how empathy in relationships enriches, develops and enables the persons involved. Such respectful, accepting and sympathetic relationships help persons find their true and best selves and fulfill their potential.
Ji Ann was initially besotted with him but this deepened into a singleminded and faithful love, which she finally realised was unlikely be reciprocated.
Dong Hoon’s relationship evolved. Firstly, treating her as an employee, which grew into admiration and a strong identification as she seemed to understand him more deeply that his spouse had understood him. He never crossed the line, but a deep and unique bond that only fellow sufferers shared, made their closeness fascinating, pure and platonic.
The greatest gifts they gave each other was the faithful “companionship” as they weathered through their greatest storms and struggles together.
Sorry to burst your bubble but I believe that marriage is over. The author left many clues including how he changed the way he addressed her (from ‘my wife’ to ‘my kids mom’), her long term departure to the US (no return mentioned when his mom asked), his new mom-and-son photos without him, Yeon Hee’s shame, etc.
Besides, is it fair for him to stay in the marriage when the person who understands him most deeply, who hurts when he hurts (and he hurts even more when he knows she hurts because of him), is a woman other than his wife? Frankly it would not be fair to either party.
But I do agree with the rest of your post. This show has been deeply redemptive.
from ‘my wife’ to ‘my kids mom’
This is pretty common in Korean families, and is not indication of how the wife, and husband, feel for each other.
I liked it that the screenwriter left the future of the marriage of Dong Hoon open ended. There were clues that indicated the marriage was on a slow mend, and others (like the examples you mentioned) that indicated that they stayed together only for the child’s sake. This ending gave the drama a touch of authenticity and realism, enhancing its potential as a likely award winner.
If there were to be a sequel drama, how would you like to see the relationships pan out.
I love this drama. It is masterpiece. Your article is such a wonderful review and reflection.
Thank you Mev for your gracious compliment. It was a most meaningful drama indeed.
Blogpastor, I am so glad you wrote about this drama. To me, this was far Oscar worthy and representative of some of the best writing and acting I have seen in a K-drama. I agree wholeheartedly with all that you wrote. Some great writing; the shopping cart with grandma was one; the funeral was another. I would agree with the other writer, however, that the marriage is over, and/or should be. It’s not because she cheated. It’s because she cheated with his boss, and conspired with his boss. She even grieved the breakup. He saved her humiliation, however, she contributed to his humiliation. The young girl protected him as the wife should have. The young girl earned the right of a woman to proudly stand at his side, even be it as a friend. The wife lost that privilege and only kept the title of his son’s Mom. Even biblically, divorce would be allowed in this instance. What should the next phase hold? I believe the self-centered boss loved the wife. Let them marry. Allow the good husband be free.
Camille, that’s the genius of this drama, depicting the reality of everyday ambiguity. Makes you wonder, wish, ponder, theorize, review the clues, speculate and keep the conversation going.
Its am so touched.. I am.pakistani and only can understand the drama and song with subtitles.. I am a huge lover of music.. adult and rainbow was such a beautiful creation of music that I am so touched. On the whole its such a beautiful and mind blowing drama. Different from other dramas and now its one of my favorite drama . I have no words to describe.
That is wonderful Sania. We have to thank those volunteers who write the subtitles for us foreigners.
My wife ad I just finished the series on Drama Fever. We’re Canadians in our mid 70s.
My Mister may have been the best film making we have ever seen. Directing, acting, lighting, OST; all exceptional.
And the story was obviously written collaboratively by Fyodor Dostoevsky and Mordecai Richler, with input from Jordan Peterson and the Marx Brothers.
We were impressed again by IU who we believe will become an international star in the West, as well as in Asia.
“And the story was obviously written collaboratively by Fyodor Dostoevsky and Mordecai Richler, with input from Jordan Peterson and the Marx Brothers”.
Haha. Why so?
Any input from Jordan Peterson is highly appreciated..
Yes it would be interesting to hear his dissection of the drama. Sadly he probably won’t have the time to watch all the episodes.
This drama is beautifully executed and left me a temporary depression after watching it. The storyline somehow reminds you that there’s always a chance you could end up in unfortunate events, met wrong people in a wrong time. Yet, it shows you that you can still believe in a rare and random kindness from someone.
It depressing me so much in a positive way.
This drama deserves more recognition and award to be honest.
Yes, Earryies, it sort of coloured the world grey during the course of the episodes, and feeling more hopeful at the end. I agree with you: it certainly deserves to win award in my humble opinion.
If you watch the ending of the last episode it shows that the male lead reconciled with his wife. The photos on this office table showed that they had a new addition to their family, together with their teenage son!
Hi, that is interesting, if what you said is true.
I remember the episode ending ambiguously as to the state of their relationship, leaving it open for viewers to guess.
I guess I have to find time to look at that episode more attentively.
I watched the drama multiple times and the Final episode photos on his office table only shows 2 pictures of his wife and son and the 3rd Photos are his pictures with his 2 brothers.
And for several times on several episodes both even mentioned that they will file for a divorce after 5 or 10 years.
And the fact that it is an open ending wherein the lead stars both met each other again with a smile and another invitation of eating together again only tells us of another chance of developing their relationship into another level and their willingness to be happy together.
Nice and remarkable story.
Very good observations. The ending was realistic yet hopeful. I think all of us viewers would wish for a reconciliation.
I felt this was a love story, but not a romance. These two people ultimately treated one another with respect and love, and this is what healed them both. Although she may have felt she liked him in a romantic way, her character recognized that what she was receiving from him, while not romantic love, was a very powerful healing love. She understoood on a gut level that such love was not to be rejected, or seen as something less because it was not romantic. She could feel the healing power even before she fully saw its effects. In turn, the belief she showed in him, her respect, and her loyalty were all incredibly healing to him. That too was love.
One of the things that made this series so powerful for me, and one of the best Korean dramas for me of the dozens and dozens I have seen, was how meaningful the support was from friends. The friends at the bar, the comrades at work, the hero’s family, all contributed at different times to the healing process, as they too started to become less fractured.
No one was perfect, but happiness didn’t finally come from perfection, but from forgiving oneself and others, and releasing oneself from shame.
Your comments are wonderfully insightful, profound and holistic. Thank you for this perspective. I totallly agree with you.
My mister is the Best of the Best……
This is the best korean drama I ever watched & the most heart touching drama ever.it teachs us to do LOVE.
I also sad because thier wasn’t romantic sences.(kisses)I missed it here.But it never put down the value of the drama(I think sometimes that’s the reason why I feel more unspeakable feeling about the drama.
I’m a big fan of k dramas.
I have no idea why most knations hate this drama.”Sometimes people do not realize most valuable & precious things are in infront of thier eyes”.Just like moon lovers drama, while the world hugging it by both hands asalways koreans used to reject it. Why koreans like this ? Are they in trapped ?
park dong hoon and Lee ji an relationship,I can call it Pure Love.
Finally I can Say Everything….Everything in this drama more Perfect….. (I’m wishing if there will be a season 2…I’m in crazy with this drama….Love you sooo much not only Park dong hoon & Lee ji an but also ❤Lee sung kyung & IU
I argee with you. It would rank up them with the top few. It did quite well in ratings in Korea too.
Thanks for your comment.
I felt that this was a perfect love story that had all the elements that I had expected. There are so many epic love stories in the world but this will be my perfect love story. I am not able to come out of the vibes that this drama has produced. I am depressed in a positive way. Normally dramas depict the leads fall in love because they are young, attractive, loveable. But this drama is completely different. The girl likes him because he is a good human being and that is what i loved in this drama. The journey in becoming a good human being is the most difficult. I have always respected such people. And the neighborhood is awesomely good. At the end of the day everyone wants to spend time with their comfortable ones. I always wonder can we love a person to such extent? I think it can happen only if we are good human beings. This is one of the best drama that I have ever watched and I am completely touched.
I am sure many who followed this drama would resonate with your sentiments and opinions about this drama. May God bless and guide you as you journey towards being a good human being.
I still don’t get it,
Why do people/comments in korea think this drama content a pedophile? Just because the tittle?
Seriously why ruin the story with bad comments about IU’s acting because for me she’s doing morethan great.
Pedo? She’s 21yo she doesn’t have a father figure that’s why she longing that presence maybe it’s wrong age gap is the problem I understand he had a family,
It’s not like he love her back
Then why considered as a pedo?
This is my fav drama of all time but people ruins it in the comments..
They have a right to their opinion. Anyway it makes people curious and more may watch and make their own judgments.
Certainly is not pedo content as far as I am concerned.
I’m Korean. If you look at the comments by Korean viewes. All the comments were about how well made the drama was and that they would say it was one if the best if not the best drama they’ve watched in their life time. They also mention how it made them think about themselves as aging individuals. No one mentioned anything related to pedophile theme.
If you watced the drama, it’s a story about how we humans should living. That we should care and love each other. Just a kind word, simple hug with sincerity could go far and change lives.
Hi Jay Lee,
The Korean’s comments carry great weight because they have seen them all and one reason it is so loved is that it makes you think hard about life, love and community. It gets under your skin. I was surprised it did not gain more awards.
As a recent convert to Asian TV generally, I have come to think deeply about how they have influenced the way I view Asian culture. This is not to say that I accept everything I watch as representative of that nation’s psyche or norms but rather that I appreciate the window into a new world that this type of TV affords.
This drama, in particular, allows non-Koreans an insight into the dignity that can exist within the human spirit in spite of hardship, betrayal and violence.
Some of the scenes on which reflect most memorably concern the recordings and live transmissions that Ji An hungrily devours whilst surviving on her milk teas/coffees. The utter cruelty of her fate and stoicism with which she faces her nemesis are heartbreaking yet uplifting and the actress is remarkable in her portrayal of the raw emotion such scenes require.
This drama is worthy of great praise and deserves a wider audience. The acting, writing, directing, scenery and music combine to enhance every scene, allowing us to cry, laugh and brood in sympathy with the script.
Thanks for your comment. You have so eloquently expressed what many of us feel about this drama but cannot quite put it succinctly. This drama is unique and deserves more attention. Who knows, it may develop a cult following.
I think it already has a big cult following. 😉
Really SF? That’s wonderful. I hope it garnered some awards. I do not keep in touch with K news.
You are right.
There are several scenes that I love the most.
– The three brothers confrontation regarding the wife involvement with another man. (They all have different approached and attitude on how to handle the situation and to comfort Dong Hoon, I cried with their emotions.)
– Dong Hoon, Jian and the grandmas first encounter just to help her see the moon (so touching)
– The pat on the back of her neck scene
– The demand to give him another pair of slippers
– The confrontation with Gwang II regarding Jian loan where he is not aware that Jian is listening and crying on the other line.
– And several scenes that he is outside waiting for Jian to passby and the other way around.
So unique and remarkable drama
Thanks for these reminders. Just reading your comments and recalling the scenes conjure up some poignant emotions. Especially the moon scene, the slipper scene and the loan scene.
I love watching this drama. to begin with i think it isn’t fantasy and that i get bored but after watching and crawling towards the next to next episode it feels like we really are living in such world. we do get tired of daily life but we still keep on living. We are living in the world where it’s rare to get people who understands our circumstances(the environment that we grew up). we always become the person where the environment teach you to be but this doesn’t mean will end up that way. We change since we are all human we got emotion no matter how hard you are. Your heart still beat.
p.s : I really love each and every play in this drama.
I like your comment:”…it feels like we really are living in such world. we do get tired of daily life but we still keep on living.” Your description is apt.
Enjoyed your reflection and the discussions.
Like to share a little bit how impressed I am by the extent Doon Hoon loves his wife. In my first viewing, I was shocked at the end that Doon Hoon decides to stay with his wife after her terrible betrayal. After the confrontation scene in Ep 12, the audience has seen how hurt and broken he was, I thought the betrayal is almost as unforgivable as it could get. There is no way this marriage could be saved. So what happened?
After re-watch, I could see that he always loves his wife and he would love her to the end. And I like the story shows how his love changed his wife and make possible her redemption at the end.
After he found out the affair he went to the CEO shut it down, but adamant that her wife be kept in the dark about it. He did not tell anyone about it. He was willing to suffer alone for the sake of his wife and keeping the family together.
Actually he has been reflecting on where things went wrong and how his irresponsiveness to his wife’s repeated complaints may have contributed to the failure of their relationship. He needs to be forgiven too.
He never said a bad word about her, not even to his brothers. He is always respectful. He never demonizes her. Even in the confrontation scene in ep 12, he is telling her how her action makes him feel, has she considered how this would affect their son. He asks why again and again. But he never blames or shames her.
So I think he has already forgiven her in about ep 5, even before he goes to the CEO. After the affairs ended, he continues to put up with her hard words, and cares for her deeply and affectionately even he knows that she is reeling from the humiliation of the collapse of her affair. He chooses to love instead of hate.
And it is after experiencing this selfless, patient and kind love that his wife starts to regret in ep 10. And the reconciliation process starts from that point on.
They know they love each other still. Ep 12 at the end of the confrontation – the wife says “I will do whatever you want.” The husband says “I do not want to make your life miserable just to make me suffer less.” After so much heartbreak, there is no bitterness between them. They still have the well being of the other person at the top of their minds.
I thought he could forgive. But could he ever trust her again? That is resolved in ep 15 when he goes to his wife about Ji An. He trusts what she says she knows and what she thinks they should do and follow her direction. From this point on his wife knows that she is forgiven, trusted, and loved and she could finally look at him in the eye again.
The way I see it Doon Hoon loves and protects his wife to the end. The world would shun her for what she did. Doon Hoon could protect his family by telling his wife and the world that we are a family. We are over it. That is why I think why he put 3 pictures of his wife and son in the office, where the staff actually know about the affair. He is saying I am not ashamed of her, I am still on her side still. He keeps no record of her wrongs. And he perseveres to the end.
His love reminds me of 1 Cor. 13 – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
To love and forgive is the best gift one could give to the other person, and also for the person himself as well.
Wow Eric, I wish I had paid attention to their relationship and wrote about it. Even then I wouldn’t be able to gain the full, beautiful insights you deducted. Thanks for deepening the discussions. Wonderful. Wonderful.
100% agree with your delicate analysis. As Doon Hoon character, he would stay in his marriage with Yoon Hee. Ki Hoon already said his second brother at early Ep. Between the conscience and desire, he will choose the conscience. He hided his pain and desire inside his heart.
Thanks for your comment.
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My Mister is really a masterpiece. All the talented actors in this drama are dazzling and the script is perfectly good. The main story line is already outstanding good plus the branch lines making the drama becomes invulnerable. The message and healing power of this drama as a priceless gift healing all the broken heart. Like the words from grandmother to Ji-an; to repay someone who’s helped you, live happily…if I need to repay my Lord’s salvation, I need to live my life happy gracefully.
Yes, it reminded me of Saving Private Ryan. The hero asked him to live well for so many had died to save him.
Doesn’t it make you wonder if there was a strong Christian presence in the writing team?
What I find really disturbing is that I get so caught up in the characters and outcomes of some of these K-dramas. At the end of “My Mister”, I wanted to throw my shoe at the TV. Ji-an and Dong-hoon aren’t going to get together? What? Weren’t there many clues that they would? Someone said they look cute together. Dong-hoon’s wife, Yoon Hui, asked Ji-an if she really liked Dong-hoon. When the answer was yes, Yoon Hui said OK. Do Joon Yeong (the really bad guy) said “you two are desperately in love”. Yoon Hui told Do Joon Yeong that she couldn’t tolerate living with Dong-hoon anymore. Bah! I’m going to quit watching K-dramas … for a while. Not sure why it was so important to me that they get together.
Hi David, I agree with you that there were a number of clues to indicate the wished-for ending of many viewers. I must say the scriptwriter is masterly at stirring our emotions, dashing our expectations, and leaving us in frustration without a clear ending. Perhaps Dong Hoon was perceptive and saw that with a new chapter in her life, Ji-an’s love for him may shift under new circumstances. She has her life ahead of her and he may have thought it best to let her grow and go, and for him to stay faithful to his unfaithful but chastened wife, and keep the family intact – not uncommon in Korean traditional society. Thanks for your comment.
you hit the nail right in the head. i was soooo depressed (and not in a good way) after watching the ending. so many questions unanswered… just like you, i was so invested in the characters that there was just NO WAY Jian and PDH wouldn’t end up together! I dunno why it was so important for me too… It was like the writer dangled a carrot in front of me and instead of just taking it away, decided to smack me in the head with it. Well, on the other hand, I do think PDH’s marriage was over… His crying towards the end shows how unhappy he was in the marriage and perhaps he regrets how he didn’t show as much outward emotion towards Jian (whom I think he loves just as much but he’s just too confused and embarrassed because of the norm) when he had the chance. One clue to this? His youngest brother inquired and reminded him of her and the next scene was his sobbing and throwing up. Anyway, I’d like to think he and his wife found their freedoms. But the none-resolution goodbye between the two leads has left a lump in my throat – three weeks after having watched it. I used to make fun of my girl friends about Kdramas and now I’m the biggest unconventional IU fan there is. “you are all good people”.
Interesting that most men are laggards when it comes to K dramas. Maybe we are afraid to admit, much less explore the emotional side of our complex nature. K dramas have a way of increasing an awareness of our emotional side, and if we are unafraid we may progress together with the other half of the human race.
Hi mr blogger dis 2020 it was 2nd time watching it over nd over again thinking who first get in love with who is it dong hoon to ji an?at lately to ji an to dong .or just emphathy to dong hoon? Ending scene smile my leave a different perspective of second chnce?
Hi Arny, you watched the drama a second time. There is a hint of a second chance – the smile at the end. Who knows? Most people would wish they ended up because they feel the hero deserved someone who loved him.