There are actually Christians who believe pastors should never get depressed or burnout if they really know the Lord and have faith in Him. To them the two are contradictory. Why should that happen when the Lord is with them and they have the power of the Spirit, who by the way, brought the world into existence? They forget Elijah, David, Jeremiah and Paul. They forget pastors have feet of clay too. They are made of flesh, blood and have hormones.They go through relational conflicts and experience loss too. They may work under as difficult work environments as executives, as this article USA Today showed……..
What kind of personal pain would cause a 42-year-old pastor to abandon his family, his calling and even life itself? Members of a Baptist church here are asking that question after their pastor committed suicide in his parked car in September. Those who counsel pastors say Christian culture, especially Southern evangelicalism, creates the perfect environment for depression. Pastors suffer in silence, unwilling or unable to seek help or even talk about it. Sometimes they leave the ministry. Occasionally the result is the unthinkable.
Experts say clergy suicide is a rare outcome to a common problem. But Baptists in the Carolinas are soul-searching after a spate of suicides and suicide attempts by pastors. In addition to the September suicide of David Treadway, two others in North Carolina attempted suicide, and three in South Carolina succeeded, all in the last four years.
Being a pastor—a high-profile, high-stress job with nearly impossible expectations for success—can send one down the road to depression, according to pastoral counselors. “We set the bar so high that most pastors can’t achieve that,” said H.B. London, vice president for pastoral ministries at Focus on the Family, based in Colorado Springs, Colo. “And because most pastors are people-pleasers, they get frustrated and feel they can’t live up to that.” When pastors fail to live up to demands imposed by themselves or others they often “turn their frustration back on themselves,” leading to self-doubt and to feelings of failure and hopelessness, said Fred Smoot, executive director of Emory Clergy Care in Duluth, Georgia.
Most counselors and psychologists interviewed for this article agreed depression among clergy is at least as prevalent as in the general population. As many as 12% of men and 26% of women will experience major depression during their lifetime, according to the American Medical Association. “The likelihood is that one out of every four pastors is depressed,” said Matthew Stanford, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Baylor University in Waco, Texas. But anxiety and depression in the pulpit are “markedly higher” in the last five years, said Smoot. “The current economic crisis has caused many of our pastors to go into depression.” Besides the recession’s strain on church budgets, depressed pastors increasingly report frustration over their congregations’ resistance to cultural change.
Nearly two out of three depressed people don’t seek treatment, according to studies by the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Counselors say even fewer depressed ministers get treated because of career fears, social stigma and spiritual taboo. “Clergy do not talk about it because it violates their understanding of their faith,” said Scoggin. “They believe they are not supposed to have those kinds of thoughts.” Stanford, who studies how the Christian community deals with mental illness, said depression in Christian culture carries “a double stigmatization.” Society still places a stigma on mental illness, but Christians make it worse, he said, by “over-spiritualizing” depression and other disorders—dismissing them as a lack of faith or a sign of weakness. Polite Southern culture adds its own taboo against “talking about something as personal as your mental health,” noted Scoggin. The result is a culture of avoidance. “You can’t talk about it before it happens and you can’t talk about it after it happens,” said Monty Hale, director of pastoral ministries for the South Carolina Baptist Convention.
For pastors, treatment can come at a high price. In some settings, however, it is becoming more acceptable for clergy to get treatment. “Depression is part of the human condition,” added Scoggin. “Some people simply find ways to gracefully live with it. Like other chronic illnesses, you may not get over it.”
Experts at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary suggest that pastors can help prevent depression by engaging in intentional replenishment weekly or monthly, confiding in their spouse and seeking spiritual direction with another pastor who ministers to them. They should also establish boundaries and set realistic expectations. “Jesus did not heal everyone, even though it was within His power to do so. No one is capable of successfully ministering to every person in need,” said Drs. Sidney Bradley and Kelly Boyce with GCTS. “Pastors can also normalize the problem of depression by teaching about it. This can help people understand it, and dispel the idea that Christians are immune from depression. Research has shown that when therapy is combined with medication, there is a 90 percent successful treatment rate. Depression is very, very treatable.” (USA Today 29/10/09)
It’s not just depression. There is general poor or bad health that pastors have – higher than general population.
Overall, there is a culture of “pastor = super saint”
Pastors need truly loving congregations but sadly many don’t. I hate to tell you some of the experiences my colleagues and I have had in US churches.
Maybe pastors should lighten up and not take themselves too seriously – like the rest of us on a journey, pastors are the professional guides. Knowledgable but certainly not infallible.
When pastors share real life events and become authentic, their weakness becomes strength with the holy spirit – the pressure comes off and journey becomes more rewarding and enjoyable for all.
Whenever lots of people are afflicted, a new trend becomes the new normal.
Like homosexuality, is suicide a perversion,(based on one’s moral
beliefs) a choice or an illness??
Methinks modern pastors need a support group with agape love
Pastors Fellowship? Will that help?
And Pastors’ Prayer Shields?
And good right and left men and women of God who will understand and educate the congregation?
Or am I being too simplistic? I know the higher-than-the world standards that lay people place on “full-time workers”….
when pastors fail in any area, people say ” why? isnt God on his side?”
If a pastor prospers with abundance, people say “why? isnt God all he needs?”
double standards.. Pastors, please dont try to be nice guys… Jesus was not a nice nice pushover.. Firm when it need be, loving always.. Know who you are, what you are called to do, and do it.. everything else can be delegated…
Those heroes of faith were from BC.
How about those in the AD, the likes of Paul, Timothy and even Steven?
Then we are able to search the difference between BC (OT) and AD (NT). Once Jesus is risen, stress is conquered!
Thanks for the illuminating article. And the reminder that pastors are human too!
Here’s the link to the original article by Greg Warner on USA Today:
Journeyman: You ask if suicide, like homsexuality, is a perversion, choice or illness. I think a distinction needs to be made, you can’t equate suicide with depression. The orginal article states that, “Most depression does not lead to suicide, but almost all suicides begin with depression.” I think that it’s like the relationship between anger and sin. The anger in itself is not sin but we are warned “in your anger do not sin”. Hence, depression is not sin but allowed to continue in the extreme can lead to the sin of sucide. Likewise same-gender attraction is temptation but practising homosexuality is sin. Sin does not come without the temptation. But temptaion is not sin.
There’s no reason why a pastor can’t get depressed. They are no different from other people, and they don’t actually have any additional safeguard against depresion.
LOVE YOUR/MY/OUR PASTORS AND PRAY UNCEASINGLY FOR THEM.